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Ask that your consciousness be filled with Light;
ask to be illumined to follow the path of simplicity
with integrity and inner sight.
Inspired by Divine Light and Love
you begin to express Divine Will in action:
thus will your journey be eased,
joy will nest in your heart...
A greater state of awareness being aroused,
you recognize the interconnectedness
of everything and everyone:
the unity of diversity.
~ Nan Merrill in LUMEN CHRISTI...HOLY WISDOM
Nan Merrill Lumen Christi . . . Holy Wisdom light
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When Bob brought the ministry of the Friends of Silence Letter to his home in a wild and sacred patch of forest in the foothills of the Blue Ridge, I "met" Nan. I learned of her faith and courage when in the midst of a city in turmoil and pain (1987 Detroit) she called a contemplative community to welcome the healing power of Silence and pray for peace. The little group was open to all faiths and cultures. It grew from 40 members to thousands around the world linked in heart-prayer and by the Letter, which Nan sent monthly to her "friends of Silence". That Letter carried beauty, compassion, wisdom and love to all who held its two folded pages in their grateful hands.

Fifteen years ago, we promised to hold the tender heart of Friends of Silence. We understood that Nan's hope for the life of her baby went beyond the Letter, and we endeavored to nurture Friends of Silence in the directions that seemed called, to allow the child to grow: a retreat ministry, a website with an archive and a searchable database of quotes, an electronic version of the Letter, and a Substack, each and every one a labor of love.

In this Advent season, when we remember the beautiful ancient story of a Holy birth, I ponder the baby that Nan entrusted to Bob. Just as humble and surprising, the Letter is a living being, filled with warmth and breath, crying out to the Divine Night, to the Mystery and the Silence, for all that we love. This is how I have come to understand that the Letter is alive like a fire is alive.

As the Northern Hemisphere is drawn into darkness, I find myself wanting to re-ignite that warming fire within the refuge of Silence, to do everything I can to place myself in the glow of it. As I wrote in the Letter almost a year ago, I sense that I am not alone in this yearning, and so in this December Letter we offer tinder and kindling to keep your soul fires alight, sparks from every one of us who has contributed to Nan's luminous baby during these fifteen years.

~ Lindsay

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Look to the light, burn candles for peace, huddle with loved ones, yes, even strangers, and persevere, dear friends.

~ Mary Ann, from June 2022 (Vol. XXXV, No. 6)

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For the Beloved is as radiant as the sun,
as strong as a steel shield,
and invites each one to come,
to partake of the Banquet.
~ Nan Merrill, from her interpretation of Psalm 84 in PSALMS FOR PRAYING
Nan Merrill Psalms For Praying light
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In this part of the world, frost crusts at the edges of minute leaves and blades of grass. The chill air illuminates each breath, making us mindful once again how crucial warmth is to sustaining life. Whether sitting in a rocker by the crackling fire of a homey hearth or huddling over a trash can fire under the freeway to fend off the cold bite of homelessness, we gather round fires because we crave the heat and light they generate. In this moment of history when so much of the world has become harsh and bitter cold, people cry out for a rekindling of the fires of love and compassion. We need to build heart hearths–havens of warmth and light where we can look across the sparks and flames to see the same longings in each others' eyes.

~ Linda, from December 2015 (Vol. XXVIII, No. 11)

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In the words of Michael Meade, sometimes I dream that we at Friends of Silence are "a small band of servants and fools who wend their way into moments and places with a carpetbag of stories, songs, poems, dances, melodies, snippets of wisdom, and spools of connective thread. With these, we seek to weave containers in which genius sparks can ignite the lantern of soul in every person there."

~ Bob, from February 2023 (Vol. XXXVI, No. 2)

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Light dwells deep within each of us
ready to radiate forth
as our will freely surrenders
in alignment with our soul's purpose.
We are here on Earth to lift and deepen
our own awareness and that of creation:
co-partners in the Divine Plan
for the divinization of all creation.
Seek within and find the Source
of Love and Light.
Shine in unity with all whose joy
is to co-birth as a light
in the world.

~ Nan Merrill in LUMEN CHRISTI...HOLY WISDOM
Nan Merrill Lumen Christi . . . Holy Wisdom light
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Though sometimes we may feel we are lost, and though there are always many parts of this old world that are hurting and appear to be in deep darkness, we must remember that the Light is always present, all around and within us. It is up to us to turn, just slightly, and find that all-encompassing Light within ourselves. When we do, we find also that we can see it without... We are called to be Light-bearers, dear friends!

~ Anne, from January 2013 (Vol. XXVI, No. 1)

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The booming voices are deafening and ever present, but it is the tiny twitters that speak to my soul. The varieties of grass growing in my garden. The patterns of planets, moons, and stars. Any tiny trait about my children. The small things matter. Seeing the small things requires some semblance of sacred silence.

~ Katie, from April 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 4)

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...Darkness has a complex personality. If you'll allow a metaphor inspired by my own childhood: sometimes Darkness is a Ford Country Squire station wagon conveying a family westward on a December highway well past bedtime. Oncoming headlights—like the eyes of a never-ending caterpillar—pierce through the blackness. Pinprick stars gleam even brighter for the crisp winter night. But inside the wood-paneled vessel, all is warmth and breath: six voices belting out Christmas carols, six noses thawing while the heater kicks in, six spines tingling as cold's discomfort meets the holiday's electric anticipation.

In other words, sometimes Darkness holds us and moves us. And always, it lets us see whatever shines with greater clarity.

~ Joy, from December 2022 (Vol. XXXV, No. 11)

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We are creatures who need light to see the way we do, to move boldly forward and around pitfalls. Light is linked in our awareness with the assurance of visibility and the thrill of creativity. For this we justifiably label it good and imagine Divinity crowned with it. But what if Light was beyond good? What if Light was really about clarity, recognition, being essentially seen and radically loved? Wouldn't that ignite our inner fire and forge us anew? In that crucible would we not be burnished to glow like lanterns in the dark?

~ Lindsay, from January 2023 (Vol. XXXVI, No. 1)

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I don't know, but maybe
it has something to do
with sitting on the roof
and watching what's left

of the lunar eclipse while
crickets sing silence
into ecstatic buzz
and joy spills into my cells

till the idea of self washes away.
Or, when I'm shucked by loss.
The self in tatters. Raw.
Naked. Unable to know.

Utterly flayed. Then.
That's when I pray.
~ Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, "When She Asked Me About Prayer" on her blog A HUNDRED FALLING VEILS
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Prayer is easy only for beginners and for those who are already Saints. During all the long years in between, it is difficult. Why? Because prayer has the same inner dynamics as love, and love is sweet only in its initial stage, when we first fall in love, and again in its final, mature stage. In between, love is hard work, dogged fidelity, and needs willful commitment beyond what is normally provided by our emotions and our imagination.

It's when I say, "I don't know how to love," and, "I don't know how to pray," that I first begin to understand what love and prayer actually are.

~ Ronald Rolheiser in PRAYER: OUR DEEPEST LONGING
Ronald Rolheiser PRAYER: OUR DEEPEST LONGING presence
November 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 10)
One way to work on your self is by being present in the body. Another way is by expanding the heart. A third way is by quieting the mind. The wise person finds a way to work on all three at the same time.
~ Russ Hudson and Richard Riso in UNDERSTANDING THE ENNEAGRAM
Russ Hudson and Richard Riso UNDERSTANDING THE ENNEAGRAM presence
November 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 10)

Solitude is one of the most precious things in the human spirit. It is different from loneliness. When you are lonely, you become acutely conscious of your own separation. Solitude can be a homecoming to your own deepest belonging. One of the lovely things about us as individuals is the incommensurable in us.

In each person, there is a point of absolute nonconnection with everything else and with everyone. This is fascinating and frightening. It means that we cannot continue to seek outside ourselves for things we need from within. The blessings for which we hunger are not to be found in other places or people. These gifts can only be given to you by yourself. They are at home at the hearth of your soul.

~ John O'Donohue in ANAM CARA
John O'Donohue Anam Cara presence
November 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 10)
Make a place to sit down.
Sit down. Be quiet.

Breathe with unconditional breath the unconditioned air.
Shun electric wire.
Communicate slowly.
Live a three-dimensional life;
stay away from screens.

Stay away from anything that obscures the place it is in.
There are no unsacred places;
there are only sacred places and desecrated places.

Accept what comes from silence.
Make the best you can of it.
Of the little words that come out of the silence,
like prayers prayed back to the one who prays,
make a poem that does not disturb
the silence from which it came.
~ Wendell Berry, "How to be a Poet" in GIVEN: POEMS
Wendell Berry GIVEN: POEMS presence
November 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 10)

One of the dysfunctional patterns of the mind is the assumption that the Now needs to be filled with something all the time.

~ Eckhart Tolle in THE POWER OF NOW
Eckhart Tolle The Power Of Now presence
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A contemplative life is not withdrawal. It is an active engagement born of stillness. Contemplation allows the soul to breathe and to meet the world with presence rather than reaction. Silence is not empty, it is full of answers if we care to listen.

~ Francis Weller in IN THE ABSENCE OF THE ORDINARY
Francis Weller IN THE ABSENCE OF THE ORDINARY presence
November 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 10)

There's so much you want to say,
but time keeps taking time and all
your words away. How to say—amid
this flood of gratitude and grief—
"Thank you!", or "How beautiful,
how grand!", or "I don't know how
I survived", or "I miss you so," or
"I was changed forever the day
we two joined hands."

As you reach for your last words,
you realize this is it—this ebbing tide
of language called your life, words
trailing into silence, returning to
the source—this unfinished poem
you would have writ, had you not
been awash in wonder, grateful
to be living it.

~ Parker J. Palmer, "The Poem I Would Have Writ"
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Meditation is taking a brief vacation from yourself. The spiritual journey is a process of dismantling the monumental illusion that God is distant or absent.

~ Thomas Keating in OPEN MIND, OPEN HEART
Thomas Keating Open Mind, OPEN HEART presence
November 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 10)

When you go out into the woods, and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. And some of them are bent. You sort of understand that it didn't get enough light, and so it turned that way. And you don't get all emotional about it. You just allow it.

The minute you get near humans, you lose all that. And you are constantly saying "You are too this, or I'm too this!" That judgment mind comes in. And so I practice turning people into trees. Which means appreciating them just the way they are.

~ Ram Dass in BE HERE NOW
Ram Dass BE HERE NOW presence
November 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 10)

During the past era our focus has been on a transcendent, often disembodied spirituality. As a result we have forgotten the very practical nature of our true self. In the dimension of oneness everything is included. There is nothing higher or lower, nothing that is not sacred. Spiritual knowledge belongs to the whole of life, to each cell of creation. The soul is present within the whole body of each of us and also within the body of the earth. Spiritual principles offer us a very practical way to work with the energies of life.

~ Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee in AWAKENING THE WORLD
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It's said that the journey to God has an end, but the journey in God is endless. All of reality is simply zero blooming into infinity.

~ Jory Pryor in BECOMING ALL LIGHT: THE NON-DUAL HEART OF CHRISTIANITY
Jory Pryor BECOMING ALL LIGHT: THE NON-DUAL HEART OF CHRISTIANITY presence
October 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 9)

The small man
Builds cages for everyone
He
Knows.
While the sage,
Who has to duck his head
When the moon is low,
Keeps dropping keys all night long
For the
Beautiful
Rowdy
Prisoners.

~ Hafiz, translated by Daniel Ladinsky in THE GIFT
Hafiz The Gift resentment
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The time in between my clapping is ma [Japanese word for "emptiness"]. If you just have non-stop action with no breathing space at all, it's just busyness, but if you take a moment, then the tension building...can grow into a wider dimension. If you just have constant tension...all the time, you just get numb.
~ Hayao Miyazaki
Hayao Miyazaki resentment
October 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 9)
For nothing is fixed, forever and forever and forever, it is not fixed; the earth is always shifting, the light is always changing, the sea does not cease to grind down rock. Generations do not cease to be born, and we are responsible to them because we are the only witnesses they have.

The sea rises, the light fails, lovers cling to each other, and children cling to us. The moment we cease to hold each other, the moment we break faith with one another, the sea engulfs us and the light goes out.
~ James Baldwin, from his essay "Nothing Personal"
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Awaken me, O Mighty One,
in your holy mercy,
that I might be free of fear...

With boundless confidence,
I abandon myself to You...
For You deliver me from illusion,
and through Love,
my heart opens to Wisdom.
~ Nan Merrill from "Psalm 54" in PSALMS FOR PRAYING
Nan Merrill Psalms For Praying resentment
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Truth without love is not transformational truth. Truth from a cruel heart undoes its message.
~ Richard Rohr in THE TEARS OF THINGS
Richard Rohr THE TEARS OF THINGS resentment
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To create the world that exemplifies our values, we need to liberate ourselves from enemy images — the thinking that says there is something wrong with the people whose actions or values we don't agree with... Now, that's not easy to do. Why? Because it's hard to believe that those who are doing things far outside of our value system are human beings like the rest of us. It's very challenging.

~ Marshall B. Rosenberg in SPEAK PEACE IN A WORLD OF CONFLICT
Marshall B. Rosenberg SPEAK PEACE IN A WORLD OF CONFLICT resentment
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Heart is sea,
language is shore.
Whatever sea includes,
will hit the shore.

~ Rumi
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... we should be careful

Of each other, we should be kind
While there is still time.

~ Philip Larkin from "The Mower," in COLLECTED POEMS
Philip Larkin Collected Poems resentment
October 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 9)
You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I say to you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you... For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have?...And if you greet only your brothers and sisters, what more are you doing than others?
~ Matthew 5:43-47
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If we work for peace out of anger, we will never succeed. Peace is not an end. It can never come about through non-peaceful means.
~ Thich Nhat Hanh in FOR A FUTURE TO BE POSSIBLE
Thich Nhat Hanh FOR A FUTURE TO BE POSSIBLE resentment
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You cannot buy the revolution. You cannot make the revolution. You can only be the revolution. It is in your spirit, or it is nowhere.

~ Ursula K. Le Guin in THE DISPOSSESSED
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If you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will be free. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free.
~ from "Prayer for Resentment" in ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS BIG BOOK
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The only sufficient answer is to give up the animosity and try forgiveness, to try to love our enemies and to talk to them and (if we pray) to pray for them. If we can't do any of that, then we must begin again by trying to imagine our enemies' children who, like our children, are in mortal danger because of enmity that they did not cause.
~ Wendell Berry in Orion Magazine, March/April 2003
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Although the wind
blows terribly here,
the moonlight also leaks
between the roof planks
of this ruined house.
~ Izumi Shikibu from "Although the wind...," translated by Jane Hirshfield and Mariko Aratani in THE INK DARK MOON
Izumi Shikibu The Ink Dark Moon resentment
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Either you will
go through this door
or you will not go through.

If you go through
there is always the risk
of remembering your name.

Things look at you doubly
and you must look back
and let them happen.

If you do not go through
it is possible
to live worthily

to maintain your attitudes
to hold your position
to die bravely

but much will blind you,
much will evade you,
at what cost who knows?
The door itself makes no promises.
It is only a door.

~ Adrienne Rich, "Prospective Immigrants Please Note," in SNAPSHOTS OF A DAUGHTER-IN-LAW: POEMS
Adrienne Rich SNAPSHOTS OF A DAUGHTER-IN-LAW: POEMS resentment
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In the summer
at day's end
we notice our salted skin
(how it clings and crusts as silt deposits)
touch lightly the tomato-red sheen in that space just below the eyes.

Wearied bodies. Sticking flesh. Warmed and weighted eyes. The smell of ourselves.
We are caked with the soil that draws up seeds to plants
and the dampnesses that quench them.
The water runs off us, coffee rich against the porcelain sink.

Who was it that likened sin to dirt? Who declared purity a vast white void?
Who never noticed the gospel of a body
in the summer
at day's end?
~ Joy Houck Bauer
Joy Houck Bauer stories
September 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 8)
Our gardens are gifts to us. They can also become our teachers. As guardians of these little patches of the planet, we can learn to work hand in hand with the land to restore each other's health. Every fragment of soil, plant, or tree that becomes recognized, respected, and loved has a healing effect on the entire planet.
~ Mary Reynolds in THE GARDEN AWAKENING
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Raimundo Panikkar ... said the future will not be a new, big tower of power. Our hope in the future is the hope into well-trodden paths from house to house, these well-trodden paths from house to house. That is the image that holds a lot of promise for our future.
~ Brother David Steindl-Rast, OSB from "How to Be Grateful in Every Moment" podcast interview with Krista Tippett
Brother David Steindl-Rast stories
September 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 8)
The Bible is more communal than individual.
Jesus teaches us to pray "Our Father" not "My Father."
Paul uses the phrase, "our Lord" 53 times, & "my Lord" only 1 time.
"Jesus is my personal savior" is not found in Scripture.
We are the people of God.
We belong to each other.
~ Rich Villodas
Rich Villodas stories
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When all the good in you
Starts arguing with all the bad in you
About who you really are,
Never let the bad in you
Make the better case
~ Andrea Gibson, "All the Good in You" in LORD OF THE BUTTERFLIES
Andrea Gibson LORD OF THE BUTTERFLIES stories
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Where do we begin?
Begin with the heart
~ Julian of Norwich
Julian of Norwich stories
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It is a little embarrassing that, after forty-five years of research and study, the best advice I can give to people is to be a little kinder to each other.
~ Aldous Huxley
Aldous Huxley stories
September 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 8)
I thought I'd live a louder life
I'd learn a lot and get it right
I'd rent a loft I'd drink all night
I'd be a living archetype
And in a blinding flash of light
I'd see that one great insight
But silence called me deeper still
Like nothing else ever will
~ Carrie Newcomer from her song, "I Meant to Do My Work Today"
Carrie Newcomer stories
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Teach us to care and not to care
Teach us to sit still
~ T.S. Eliot from "Ash Wednesday" in T. S. ELIOT: COLLECTED POEMS
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Don't say that I will depart tomorrow—
even today I am still arriving.

Look deeply: every second I am arriving
to be a bud on a Spring branch,
to be a tiny bird, with still-fragile wings,
learning to sing in my new nest,
to be a caterpillar in the heart of a flower,
to be a jewel hiding itself in a stone.

I still arrive, in order to laugh and to cry,
to fear and to hope.
The rhythm of my heart is the birth and death
of all that is alive...

...Please call me by my true names,
so I can hear all my cries and laughter at once,
so I can see that my joy and pain are one.

Please call me by my true names,
so I can wake up
and the door of my heart
could be left open,
the door of compassion.

~ Thich Nhat Hanh from "Please Call Me By My True Names" in CALL ME BY MY TRUE NAMES
Thich Nhat Hanh Call Me By My True Names stories
September 2025 (Vol. XXXVIII, No. 8)

We succeeded in taking that picture [from deep space], and, if you look at it, you see a dot. That's here. That's home. That's us. On it, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever lived, lived out their lives. The aggregate of all our joys and sufferings, thousands of confident religions, ideologies and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilizations, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every hopeful child, every mother and father, every inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every superstar, every supreme leader, every saint and sinner in the history of our species, lived there on a mote of dust, suspended in a sunbeam. The earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena ... It's been said that astronomy is a humbling, and I might add, a character building experience. To my mind, there is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly and compassionately with one another and to preserve and cherish that pale blue dot, the only home we've ever known.

~ Carl Sagan in THE PALE BLUE DOT
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People do meditation to find psychic alignment. That's why people do psychotherapy and analysis. That's why people analyze their dreams and make art. That is why some contemplate tarot cards, cast I Ching, dance, drum, make theater, pry out the poem, and fire up their prayers. That's why we do all the things we do. It is the work of gathering all the bones together. Then we must sit at the fire and think about which song we will use to sing over the bones, which creation hymn, which re-creation hymn. And the truths we tell will make the song.

~ Clarissa Pinkola Estés in WOMEN WHO RUN WITH THE WOLVES
Clarissa Pinkola Estes Women Who Run With The Wolves stories